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Choose Your Partner in Love
« on: May 04, 2007, 07:36:35 AM »
From the moment we are born, we’re imbued with the capacity for making choices. Man, unlike other animals, does not make choices by instinct alone. Man is also a reasonable being: he carefully considers his options well before launching out into the deep. This capacity is as vital as life itself. Where else can man use this capacity better than in finding his life partner? Of the millions of beautiful women and handsome men out there, how can man be expected to find a Mr. and a Mrs. Right?

Our innate quality usually leads us in making life choices. We may know immediately upon meeting or speaking to someone that they fit our mental, psychological, and personality profiles. But such experiences are few and far between. One thing is surely true: when we take pains to choose the ones we would like, we end up finding them!

Physical attraction, personality, common factors, and many other indices lead us to choose our partners. But what are all these qualities if we don’t love our partners? It’s like having a car frame without the motor. Love must be the key factor in choosing our love partners. Where there is genuine love, the relationship is bound to succeed.

Sometimes people think that compatibility, physical attraction, beauty, and other external titivations will lead to love. As great as these prettifications are, they don’t lead to love. They might even hamper love. They may induce striking chemistry, but love is not the same as sexual compatibility. You may have great sex with a person and come to realize you never loved him or her. This explains why people fall in love this year and fall out of it next year.

Why is this? It’s because people usually mistake sexual compatibility for love. Love is more than just techniques and being presentable. Love is based on knowledge. It is not a feeling that overwhelms us and leaves us with no choice. It is something we can control. We can choose whom to love and marry. That’s what makes love superior:  it is something we have power to control, and yet it overpowers us.

The secret to successful relationships, therefore, is in letting love guide us in choosing our mates. To do less is to open the doors wide to trouble. A relationship without love is like living in bondage. Sadly, most people create their own small prisons by rushing into marrying a person they never loved.

The good news is that you can start loving your partner even today. The moment love is established in the relationship, it begins to stand up on its feet again!

Love is the best motive for choosing your mate. Love will transform any defects in your partner into symbols of perfection. When you put love first, love will put you first. Marry only the person you love. Remember also that souls may be attracted, but only love knits the hearts!
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