Four Ingredients for Avoiding Marriage Breakdown

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Four Ingredients for Avoiding Marriage Breakdown
« on: April 17, 2007, 07:01:03 AM »

The following are the four ingredients for avoiding marriage breakdown.

Firstly, partners should be committed to speaking well of each other. Partners should learn to “bless” one another and to respond with good words to one another. This is especially true when one partner is unruly. Love has the capacity to change a wayward partner into a dependable homemaker. Speaking well of each other should be followed up by learning to be sensitive to each other’s needs. Many a time partners have focused only on their own needs neglecting those of the other partner. This leads to one-sided relationships which are hazardous to marriage.

Secondly, partners should learn to build each other up in love. I have been appalled by husbands who tear their wives up in public. No matter what the excuse, it is not a good thing to ridicule or castigate your partner in full view of other people. Telling-off your husband or wife in public is a sign of bad things to come. Realize that a wife or husband is a direct representative of your dreams, ideas, ideals and intentions. The way you treat him or her demonstrates how well or poorly you regard your own value, worth and sense of choice.

Build her or him up by praise, appraisal, appreciation and cheering in every area of life. There is no one that can better destroy his or her own marriage than an insensitive partner. Other people from outside can say whatever they want, but that will evaporate and vanish away. Yet, what your partner says to you sticks! Therein is found wisdom: your partner is the primary source of motivation in life. Realizing this fact and practicing it will turn any wobbling affair into bliss!

Thirdly, do things together with your partner. There are many things partners can do with each other apart from fulfilling conjugal duties. It is often paradoxical that two people who live and sleep under one roof usually go in different ways. While it is reasonable to think that the obvious thing to expect of marriage couples is collaboration, in many real situations, couples have preferred other acquaintances to their own partners!

Couples should learn to share, which demands giving of themselves to one another. This also involves listening to each other and developing a sensitivity and awareness that deepens the love between the couple.

Fourthly and lastly, learn to touch each other in a nonsexual way. Physical touch is very essential to human relations. But for a couple to touch each other and not expecting to have an affair is a marvelous discovery. A touch is a smooth way of saying, “I love you so much.” A tender touch shows us that we are actually cared for. It has the propensity to calm fears, soothe pains, and bring emotional security.

We’ve thought that touching is only a preliminary for sex, while that’s correct; it has never hurled relationships to higher levels than sex. Practicing physical touch in a nonsexual way opens doors to greater satisfaction without ever engaging in the act of sex itself.

It nourishes marriage and builds lasting relationships! Touching is a way of saying without words, “I love you for who you are and not for what you have!”


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